Ever had one of those "friend(s)" that are always fishing for either compliments or sympathy of some sort?
Well, I have a friend... and here is my story. *please take time to read and tell me what you think* Well, she didn't start out as my friend. She use to have some beef with my little sister over a stupid relationship my sister had with her so called "Best guy-friend". (My friend "Yvonne" is now 20 and my little sister "Cali" is going to be 16 in a week - so you can kind of see the big age difference. Immaturity maybe?) Well, I knew "Yvonne's" older brother without knowing that his sister was "Yvonne" until a year or so later. (How funny eh?) Getting to the point, now "Yvonne" and I became friends because she was good friends with my significant other - and now that I am married to my significant other, she is my good friend. Don't get me wrong, im not her friend just because my spouse and her are good friends. Im friends with her because I chose to be. She's a wonderful person, very caring and loving, and she's very independent and intelligent. She doesn't take any bs from anybody (or so she says so) and she is a very head strong kind of person. Well, over the past year, she has been in a really bad relationship with a younger guy. His name is "Nate." "Nate" is a friend of mine and the spouse as well. "Nate" isn't as close to us as "Yvonne" is but still...friends will be friends. Anywho, over the past year, "Yvonne" has been through relationships that took her over the edge and made her hate guys. Then men race in general - until she fell head over heels for "Nate." "Yvonne" and "Nate" are those type of couples that can only stay together by constantly arguing and bickering. There's moments of happiness but right after that, another argument happens. Supposidly, "Yvonne" says that "Nate" can't get over her pass and he keeps bringing it up and she thinks he does this on purpose because he likes to start arguments with her. She has come to me for advice multiple times and I tell her the same stuff over and over. "Look at you! You're 20! He's 18. He's just not mature enough for you. You are looking for a real relationship when this boy barely wants to commit. You're doing this to yourself. You gotta let him go if you want to be happy." But she says that he IS her happiness. She loves him with all her heart and she can't let him go.She has done so much for him. She got him his job at Wendy's - she co-signs for all his things like when he needed to get his license, she lives an hour away and visits him all the time and he can't even visit her because he has no car. Basically, I tell "Yvonne" that she is stupid. Yeap, I told her that. "Yvonne, you are too stupid. Stop being so blinded by love. You need to seriously snap out of this." She also has family problems. She's the youngest of her family and she feels like she needs to be this perfect little angel to keep the family together because supposidly her father wants or has another wife already? *NOT SURE about that PART* but her family is kind of falling apart and she feels like she is the reason why. All her sisters have tried to kill themselves by overdosing and all attempts failed. They have horrible relationships with their husbands and she feels that it's all her fault. Then when she argues with "Nate", she feels like it's her fault for not being the "perfect girlfriend" even though she does so much for him. She comes back to me and vents off, then I tell her everything I already told her before, give her some encouragements and sympathy, then she feels a little better telling me im the greatest friend and if she didn't have me, she wouldnt know what to do. You know what I think? I think she is messed up in the head for real and she just needs attention or professional help. Like today, she posts a bullentin for the *PUBLIC* to read and it went something like this, "I have been feeling so shitty lately and I feel horrible today. I was puking out my guts last night and today isn't any better. I have been having thoughts lately and no one knows but "Nate" and today, I woke up and puked out just water. So my dad wanted to talk to me, he pulled me aside and asked me if im okay and tells me to start eating because he hasnt seen me eat for awhile, i look too pale, i got too skinny....etc. My dad should just mind his own business. I don't know whats wrong with me and I do not want to go to the hospital.".... Something like that so of course, being a good friend that I am, I go note her right away. She logged off 5 minutes later not replying or anything. What's her problem? Seriously...if i was a real friend, don't you think she would ACT like one too? Anywho, I think that "Nate" has got her brainwashed because he's very... um, protective of her. They have broken up many times, argued, and yet, she cant let go of him because he is really "special" to her. Im getting sick of these little games she's doing. Like keep coming back for advice but not taking any. Im tired of hearing her talk about her problems because it's the same crap over and over. Simply, I do NOT sympathize for her anymore. I jsut kind of want to tell her, "GO AWAY." But you know, I dont want to become a "problem" in her life too so whatever! You guys get where this is going... Leave your thoughts and comments. | 
